Carl* wrote in:
Where can i get info on parenting, specifically how to parent a 14 year old girl? My daughter just came to live with me and I’m in my 50s and have no idea what to do with and how to parent a 14 year old.
Carl — that’s a frightening question. And, coincidentally, it comes slightly over a week from another writer’s email. Let me introduce you to Rebecca Magby, a Parenting Coach. I had no idea there were professional “parenting coaches” but after the level of terror your email inspired, I’m glad they’re there. Rebecca may not be a perfect match for you, however, she calls attention to a niche service of which you might not be aware.
I’m so happy to have to opportunity to discuss Parent Coaching with you. Let me start by introducing myself, my name is Rebecca Magby, I am a Certified Professional Nanny and a Parent Coach, (ACPI Certified Parent Coach- certification will be completed in September). I’ve worked with children since 1993 and have studied psychology and child development extensively. I specialize in toddlers, behavior modification and medication free treatment for ADHD.
I feel strongly about helping parents create family harmony. While researching ways I could provide parents with personalized help regarding their parenting concerns, I learned about Parent Coaching, and realized that the Portland area needs the services a Parent Coach provides.
Parent Coaching is a confidential and personalized service that helps parents create solutions to their parenting problems all the while staying within the family’s values. During a coaching session parents will discuss their concern, I’ll provide education about their issues the together we will create workable solutions to their concerns. About a week later we’ll check in for another session and adjust where necessary.
Many of today’s parents are working professionals who are very busy and do not have the time to read numerous parenting books hoping the theories and suggestions provide are correct for their particular problem or fit within their family’s values, this is where parent coaching helps. Not only can the parents be assured the suggestions provided work, because I’ve used them for more than 15 years, but I also understand parents are busy, so I try my best to accommodate their lifestyle. Parent Coaching sessions take place over the phone at a convenient time for the parents, which means parents do not need to worry about taking time off work, finding a baby sitter or battling traffic to make an appointment.
At this time I’m hoping to talk to as many Portland area parent groups I can about Parent Coaching and Parent Coaching services can help.
Additionally, I have created 2 seminars which I plan on offering periodically, one is Behavior Modification without Punishment and the other is Beyond Stranger Danger. I will post times and locations on my website as soon as I have a seminar scheduled.
Yes, I remember your daughter is not 4 but instead is 14. If you hit up google, you’ll find a few other coaches. I’ve also worked hard at reading various parenting books, watching some of the parents at my daughter’s school. I also read websites at parenting.com and the Parents magazine. However, hopefully, some of our readers might have some suggestions on how to keep up. Fourteen is going to be an exciting time.
* (not his real name)